If you are anything like me there’s a lot of noise in your head
at any one given time.
We often run worst case
scenario’s over and over in our minds more than best case scenario’s. Sometimes
we make up things that other people are thinking about us saying about us or
reasons that something goes the way that it does, especially when it comes to
pleasing my family! I admit I am a people pleaser… sometimes this is a strength
and other times it is a weakness. I just really crave people being happy! Often
it is a mission for me…
More likely than not, we
have absolutely no idea what someone else is thinking we just like to think
they’re thinking the worst-case scenario. Mind you I’m very rarely thinking bad
things about other people. So, I am not sure why I take up time in my mind to
think about what they’re not thinking about me. It’s that struggle with self-confidence
type of thinking that someone is always thinking negatively about me. I hate
thinking that someone is disappointed in me doing something incorrectly or not
to their liking. Sometimes that gets me in a heap of trouble at home when I
automatically think someone’s thinking something that they’re not. It can
really make me defensive, moody, and sometimes just not pleasant to be around.
Even though there’s nothing for me to feel this way about I create an illusion
in my head to often justify the negative things I am thinking about myself… the
whole negative self-talk scenario.
This morning I had great intentions of getting a lot
accomplished and everything falling into place trying to prepare for a trip to
go out of town in less than 48 hours. What all do I need to fit in, buy, pack,
get ready for my house sitters, take care of the animals, clients etc.! Let’s
just say life happens and lots of stuff went wrong this morning, but not a
single thing was that BIG of a deal, but still got short with my kid on the way
to school and ended up crying. It’s so easy to get inside my head and try to
figure out things I could’ve done better to make it have worked out any way
other than it did. However sometimes shit just happens. And it’s beyond our
control.
NEWS FLASH- We are not perfect, and it is silly to think we can
be or can control what is!
Stop analyzing everything!!! Sometimes I waste so much time analyzing
things I forget about the here and now and the things we can accomplish if our
brain wasn’t in the past trying to find a what if. I saw a couple friends
running into the grocery store this morning for a few things, and it reminded
me that we are all often in the same boat trying to fit in perfect in our lives,
time for ourselves and our girlfriends, that woman/mom stress relief time to
bond and connect. Over-stressed, overworked and feeling like we must accomplish
everything with some impossible deadline instead of just going with the flow. Often
God or the Universe has different plans than we do. Stop trying to correct what
is supposed to be and embrace it! Move on push forward. Fresh start. Be happy
from here.
My friend was telling my son the other day that her and her
daughter had a funeral for perfect. Plan one for your perfect… celebrate that
funeral and then bury perfect and just enjoy life as imperfect as you are!
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