Thursday, July 28, 2016

Keep Calm and Mom On!

Over the past week or so, being busy in real estate 2 weeks straight of out-of-state buyers, long days, closings that don't quite close when expected, fires to be put out or upset clients to calm down, my son starting school, back full blast with the PTA presidential duties... I have come to have some moments where everything doesn't run so smoothly or fall into place as I would expect or hope that it would. It is so easy to get upset or fall apart. I can be dramatic at times, I can lose my cool, I can yell... heck I am not perfect I am a MOM... a Multitask-er of Moments! When I remind myself that a lot of things are beyond my control, and are going to happen no matter how hard we wish them not to or try to prevent them, getting upset, isn't going to change a thing besides waste my own energy! A lot of times in those multitask of moments we as moms are often hit with many things that need our attention at the same time, no one can wait, patience is thin, kids seem extra whiny, the dogs are barking, the phone is ringing, that unexpected bill, something needs to be repaired, an email comes through with not so good news.... we are overwhelmed and our anxiety pushes forth and causes that explosion... I know you know what I am talking about, that build up of stress and overwhelming tasks that we just CAN'T take it anymore. You blow up you also tend to do it to those you care about the most and that is when it sometimes can be the most hurtful. We want to remain in control... and sometimes we just can't! A mom is usually the glue to the family.. the one who holds it together... how does the saying go? When mom isn't happy, no one is happy... When mom is grouchy, everyone is grouchy, when mom is uneasy, everyone is uneasy... It may be an everyday process, but I will need to remind myself every day that my attitude and my demeanor is reflecting and portrayed to my family and can make or break our day. Is that 5 minutes of losing control worth ruining our whole day? You bring back what you put out... your happy thoughts and positive attitude goes out and comes back to you... and when your family is in sync with their pleasant attitudes it makes for a lot more pleasurable experience for all. I have to say that when one of my family members gets upset and I remain calm the whole situation runs more smoothly and dissipates a lot faster than when I also get upset, yell or get frustrated too... which can and has on many occasions ruined a whole day. When everyone else is happy, Mom is happiest. Remind yourself of this the next time you need to remain calm in a situation you would most normally lose your cool. 2 Timothy 1:7 ESV For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.