WAIT! A Hidden Blessing.

So it seems I've noticed the last few weeks that my son's new favorite word is wait! No matter what I say no matter what I ask him to do the response I get 99% of the time get is "wait". Whether he's watching TV eating breakfast, playing with the dog, or  outside with his dad... The response is "wait"! 

This seems to be a bit of an annoyance to me when I'm in a hurry or we have limited time for what needs to get done, or I need him to help me with what I think is immediately important. Sometimes it becomes a struggle and sometimes it brings out the mean mom in me! I'll admit I can get agitated and yell to hope for a better response. Often times I just make the situation worse! But hey I react to situations sometimes not in the way I want. 

In similar circumstances I often have clients who aren't quite ready to buy house due to finances or some sort of approval that still needs to happen! They grow impatient or restless and either want to give up or try to somehow fix the situation on their own. I try to remind them that timing is everything and what we think now we might be losing out on is really a blessing in those situations -I remind them to wait. Focus on what needs to be done to get to where you need to be- timing could be everything and when they miss out on something it may be a blessing in disguise. 

sometimes I give examples of my own personal situations and circumstances in the past that I found there was a reason why it didn't work out the way I wanted it to at that time. 

Just as my son is asking me to wait when I think I know what is best for him, I am asking my clients to wait when I think I know what is best for them- 

The Lord is often asking me to wait, for the right moment, the right situation the right timing for me. We often lose sight that God is in control no matter how much we think we want to control our circumstances or situations we want to hurry or rush something when we want immediate results. We may look back years from now and realize it could've been a disaster if it worked out the way WE wanted it to! 

They who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength they will soar with wings like eagles they shall run and not grow weary they shall walk and not faint. 

Isaiah 40:31. 

When you learn a lesson too.

A few weeks ago we went out to eat after one of Paxton's golf clinic lessons with my sister-in-law and family. We went to one of those restaurants where you order at the counter and sit down. Paxton decided to bring in my old phone that he likes to play games on. While we waited for the food he played and then set the phone down on the table. As we were leaving he skipped out ahead and I grabbed the phone and put it in my purse. As we were all standing outside chatting before we all got in separate vehicles and drove away... he realized he forgot the phone inside. He asked me if I had grabbed it I looked right at him and said "no". He ran back inside to look on the table and came back outside totally upset that his phone was missing and he would need to buy a new one. I said "buy a new one?" He said yes his was gone he needed to go buy a new one. I said " you lost your phone because you left it inside, that doesn't automatically grant you the right to buy a new one." He didn't even know what to say. As we got in the car and Steve and I lectured him about being responsible, he cried and said that he didn't mean to leave it and that no one even came out of the restaurant while we were standing there so he doesn't know who would have stole it. We swung over to the Home Depot parking lot for Steve to run inside for something we needed. Paxton continued to rant about needing a new phone. I said "Paxton, I took your phone off the table as you didn't remember to grab it, you are grounded from it for the rest of the day, you need to learn to be responsible and that things are not disposable, as they cost money and mom and dad work really hard to buy you nice things." His response and a slap in my face he says "Mom, you should be grounded from something, you lied to me." Wow! I didn't even know how to think, act or respond after that. I am sitting there trying to teach the kid a lesson and reason with him about being responsible and doing the right thing, owning up to his mistake... and he was dead right! When outside the restaurant he asked me if I grabbed his phone, I looked right at him and told him no... an obvious lie as the phone was tucked inside my purse. So... bad parenting moment? Or lesson I taught myself? If we want to teach our kids to be responsible, trustworthy and honest... our approach to "teaching" them a lesson needs some improvement. Sometimes in the heat of the moment of a situation we react in a way that may not give us the outcome we anticipate, but it sure teaches our kids that we are human and make mistakes and helps us to be a little more careful with our words and a little more forgiving the next time.