Settle the Noise before Proceeding

 

Somedays my head is crowded with noise, it is hard to focus with so many noises pulling me in different directions. Sometimes I need to clear my thoughts and get back to center, sometimes I just need to stop, take 15 minutes for myself, and flush those noises out, no matter where I am or what I am doing in order to reset and come back to the present remembering my purpose or my why. Without a reset button you get stuck. Being stuck is unproductive and allows a buildup of negative emotions spiraling forward like a catapult waiting to crash into something causing damage that I never intended. This noise and my lack of peace of mind has ultimately affected myself and my relationships and I need to correct it. NOW.  

Prayer has been the answer for me every single time. This is a little different than my normal blog but remember what I write is ultimately for me that I share with you just in case it may help someone in their world.

I wrote this almost 20 years ago and edited it to fit my life now. Sometimes things are brought into our lives to disrupt our peace. It is our responses to them that are most important and will ultimately break us down or make us thrive going forward. We may encounter a slight setback or “off” feeling, it is how we recover that is crucial to our well-being.

After quite a few days of anxiety, stress, inner turmoil, and exterior drama regarding a few different areas of my life, I am wanting to invite the peace back in extra loud and strong to bring me back to center, drown out the noise, and hone in on my true self, who I want to be, who I hope to become and how  I want others to see me and interact with and most of all be the example I want for my child. After realization comes communication with those around us and correction for our actions, responses, and lack thereof. We as humans are not perfect and are not expected to be but being better than we were the day before is always a goal that can be accomplished.

One slight change in thought in the morning can make a huge difference in our day, why not start out with a positive one. I was once told that the woman in a relationship controls the mood of a whole family and how they respond can make or break the atmosphere of your day. I am a firm believer that this is true and I want to be the woman who sets the tone at the highest level that I am capable of from a true place of love surrounding all aspects of my life.  This is my prayer and I felt compelled to share!

April 2024 pray revised from 2007

Today is going to be an amazing day!

I am an upbeat hope filled women who trusts my hopes not my fears. I trust God has a plan for my life and He will make that plan known to me for I am a child made in His image and likeness, and He is proud of the skills and strengths that He has given me to serve His people.

I am an amazing, wonderful individual who deserves honor and respect. I am willing to help those in need and make others feel good about themselves. I deserve all the wonderful things that I receive. I am truly blessed to be where I am in life despite my past circumstances, loss, trauma, or failures.

I can change no one’s attitude but my own, I can make a difference in the lives of others by my willingness to love, to live in a place with myself that doesn’t allow circumstances to control my attitude, my relationships or my inner self control and when it does, I take action to correct it.

Failure is inevitable, I am human and not perfect, I am not expected to be perfect or right all the time. Stuff happens everyday that is beyond my control, and I must trust the process and surrender the outcome.

I cannot let others control my thoughts or my ideas or discourage what I know in my heart I can do and accomplish. I do not limit myself out of fear, I face fear head on and eliminate doubts, obstacles, and exterior noise. I will not put others doubts ahead of my dreams, no one can steal my dreams or lessen them because if I set my mind to something I know that in reality I can accomplish it. God is all I need approval of.

I am grateful to live in a time and place where I can choose who I want to be, where I am, where I live, what I do, for the freedom that is given to me to make these choices. I choose to live to my life to the fullest while I am still here, I choose to love and be happy. Happiness isn’t something that comes to me, it is something that I choose by living happy and allowing others to live happy. I choose to let go of the negativity of circumstances that I often let creep into my life. I control my thoughts, actions, and responses.

Help me to choose to make the right choices, courageous choices, beneficial choices for myself and my family. Help me choose to be the best person that I can be, help guide me to serve in the way that you have intended me to serve you and your people, God. Help me to be a positive example to others while being at peace with the fact that I cannot change other’s attitudes, actions, or responses. I can only pray that my example can reflect on others to be the best version of themselves. Allow me to give myself grace for my mistakes and inadequacies when I am not on point all the time. Help me to treat myself with respect.

I refuse to allow circumstances to bring down my mood and attitude and will work toward correcting myself when they do. I will not give in to the gossip of the world and strive to always be honest, caring, kind, and helpful to others.

 Today I take control, it is my control to take. I will do with my life what God has intended for me to do and allow myself to be guided in the right direction with my skills, strengths, and abilities to serve others.

I will allow myself to let peace and happiness flow from me to others so that they feel a since of joy and well being in their lives. I want to live abundantly and share frequently.

I put you in charge of my businesses and the people that I am called upon to help. I thank you for my skills and abilities that are unique to me and give me the opportunity to live out my purpose. My mind is open to learning, growing, loving, prospering, and succeeding in my own sense of that word. Success looks different to everyone. I do not compare myself to others, I accept who I am supposed to be, what I contribute, and what makes me happy. I want to live in the moment, concentrate on being present to those around me, enjoying each moment of my life, the timing that aligns with my story, sharing my experiences with others, and sharing my energy and goodness!

Give me patience, courage, strength, and resilience. Guide me in the direction you wish me to take in my life- show me the way, help me to enjoy my journey. We all deserve happiness. Allow me to take time when needed to refresh, reset, reconstruct, and heal so I can be the best version of myself to help others.

When you start to feel yourself spiral out of control or let your surrounding circumstances control your minute/day/life. STOP. It is okay to stop and be still! The world will not stop for us, but we can take a slight break to clear the noise so we can move forward to the best of our ability with confidence that we can handle whatever is thrown at us. We all have shit happen every single day, it is how we respond that reflects who we are. Calculate your response in a way you want to be remembered for. 

Adjust Your Sails!

 

Dancing around my kitchen listening to my play list in my jammies, cooking dinner, drinking wine, and feeling at peace after a few days of being overwhelmed with life. Spare you the exact details but seemed like everything hit at once. I am here, life is good, I still have a purpose!  One thing after another hitting me like a brick (no pun intended as Paxton just ended up with a slight concussion after hitting his head unloading hay on a metal beam of our barn – he is okay, resuming baseball next Monday per doctors’ orders), some disappointing, some overwhelming, some overstimulating, and some more rewarding than others. Isn’t that life?  

To recognize that no matter what I am dealing with, whatever comes at me, or surrounds me, I love my life, I am blessed, and I enjoy it. Not only for what I have accomplished, what I have and who I share it with, but for accepting what I have been dealt and making the most of it. This is my story, as I have said many times, and I am embracing it! The good, the bad, and the ugly.

Being content and being happy are two different feelings. The things that make you content do not challenge you and often do not allow you to live up to your full potential. It is you against your potential and whether you are satisfied with that feeling and where you are at or if you are wanting, needing, or expecting more out of yourself. You are always one choice away from a totally different life, but you must be prepared for what lies ahead, sometimes it can be scary, but taking the risk can reap potential unlimited rewards!  

The last several weeks, as real estate has gotten busier, baseball has started again after a 2 year and 3-month hiatus, I am letting go of some of my past commitments, embarking on a new future, and consciously and purposefully engaging in a more present way of life. I may be experiencing a little more overwhelming moments but also some pretty fulfilling ones as well. Stay tuned, more to come in the upcoming months!

The recent additions to our lives have surely brought some of the calmest and most rewarding moments and a promising future. Don’t be afraid to pray for hard things. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and believe you deserve it. Some recent obstacles, hiccups, and trials have made for a better appreciation when they are overcome.

I recently acknowledged, though realized much earlier on that everything we experience either teaches us a lesson or makes us stronger and more capable of handling future obstacles, setbacks and or challenges. Praying for the right words to say, the right actions to take, or believing we already accomplished it is definitely in our favor. You may not get what you prayed for, but believe it is because you will gain something better, or what you are supposed to have.

I recently sold a home to clients that they were in love with, their eyes lit up as they spoke to family about the property, the inspection had them second guessing and canceling that purchase, they were disappointed in a major way, as it was their first home buying experience.  I said maybe that was what you had to have happen so that the right thing would come along but wasn’t available yet. 2 weeks later- perfect home, same price range, with a pool popped up, we negotiated the price, the terms, and the conditions and guess what it was theirs! Yes, sometimes things are worth going through a disappointment first to get what you are meant to have. Sometimes we have to surrender the outcome and trust the process.

I also was reminded recently by another friend that we cannot please everyone all of the time, we are not supposed to be someone we are not to fit in, to be liked, or to try to accommodate those around us. I gave her the advice that your people are the ones that can accept your flaws, and you can accept theirs, you laugh together, show up for one another, pray for one another, and encourages them to live their best life, to their fullest potential and they return that extraordinary reciprocation for you as well. You don’t have to change how you act or who you are to be accepted by them, those people are not your people, you are not going to be everyone’s person either. Not everyone’s personality, life goals, or morals are going to mesh. Don’t waste your time fighting to make them. Embrace you, concentrate on you, your goals, your dreams, your family- be kind, helpful and respectful of others but stop bending over backwards to fit in or feel liked and loved by those that will never accept you no matter how good of a person or how hard you try and stop trying to make sense of why they don’t.

Concentrate on the things that bring you joy, fill your cup, and accentuate your purpose. Always be willing to learn, grow, and adjust. Seize your YOU. 

The Pessimist Complains About the Wind; the Optimist Expects It to Change; the Realist Adjusts the Sails - William Arthur Ward