What is genuine?

So sometimes no matter what you do it is still not good enough to anyone. Your life can some how seem like it is headed in the right direction, that things are once again on their way to being on track- whether a financial state, relationship or career angle, it is all the same. Ups and downs and sideways tracks, one step forward one step back.
Positivity they say can spread and lift a person up and negativity and doubt can spread like wildfire and set you back twice as fast as positivity builds you up! I think that we spend a little too much time analysing what it is we should do instead of doing it. The things we write down, the things we visualize and the things that we say can all turn out to come true if we put them out there enough, so why the heck are we repeatedly putting out all the negative stuff, all of our fears, our doubts? Is it easier to think that we will fail than to believe we can succeed? I think so. I think that we don't have enough confidence, we don't believe that we deserve the good sometimes. It is easier to just come down hard on our self or to say that it is impossible, rather than to believe, to try- because sometimes we would rather not try and not risk failing rather than try and perhaps succeed. No one WANTS to fail, no one wants to think that they are not good at something or cannot follow through, but you know what, no one becomes successful, no one even fails with out trying, and at least you can say you tried, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again. I am repeatedly motivating others to believe in themselves, to try and accomplish their goals, to have confidence and to show others that their hard work and dedication is making a difference. Sometimes a little recognition for our hard work is all we are asking for to keep on doing what we are doing, to know we are making a difference and to positively reinforce that what we do matters to someone, that someone is proud of our accomplishments and wants us to continue to be the person we are and to do the things that we do best, even if we should already know we are good at something, it is nice to be reminded about it from time to time to keep our sanity. How do we know that we are worthy if once and a while we aren't told so? I had a conversation with a co-worker today after listening in on a call he made to a student, his sincerity for the student's success struck me as very honest, genuine and believable, no sales gimmicks, no false sense that all he was looking to do was collect a paycheck. After he hung up I asked him where he learned how to be such a caring genuine person? He attributed this to his parents, especially his mom and the way he was raised. I asked him if he thanked her often, I think he was kind of surprised by my question, but he chuckled and said, probably not enough. Wow, that is powerful. Sometimes we are grateful to others for something that they have done, for something that we were taught, for something that they contributed to our life, but yet they are the last people we thank on a regular basis. Why you ask? Most of the time I think we believe that they ought to know this already and don't feel the urge or the need to repeat our gratefulness. I do believe though that positive reinforcement no matter whether you have been told already 100 times, it is still good to hear the gratitude that someone has toward you, or the ways they believe in you and are really proud of you, or really thankful for something that you have done for them or showed them. Sometimes we are quick to pick out all the things they have done wrong or the way that we wouldn't have done them. But usually the good outweighs the bad in MOST situations, so why are we so quick to emphasize the wrong instead of right? Is it easier? Does it make us feel more adequate if we can pick out someone else's flaw?
I think if we can develop an "attitude of gratitude" as they say, on a more regular basis, the world would be a lot happier place with a little less conflict and a little less guilt. But that is just my opinion. This next week I am going to try harder to thank the people who mean the most to me, to be grateful for the things I have been shown, for the gifts and talents that I have been given.I will easily let go of irritations, the negatives and the wrongs and to concentrate only on the stuff that others are doing right. When someone else says something negative about a person or situation, I am going to try hard to turn it into something more positive. I am going to ask for direction on how to use my talents and strengths to help others and consistently try to make a difference for others and be a better me. I know it takes time and effort and is a constant uphill battle as they say, but I never want to give up hope, and I never want to stop trying! I want be me, to be genuine, to care about everyone and to love UNCONDITIONALLY.