No Whining Zone

I was reminded the other day when speaking with a client who had a difficult time with a sale of her home, that sometimes our agendas are not always the plan for our lives. She felt that they received an answer as to God's timing even though they experienced super frustration at the time and mentioned that it was one of the worst and most aggravating experiences that they had been through as a couple.  Sometimes there is some hidden reason or meaning in what we are experiencing or going through on a particular day, week, month or year that could be troublesome and aggravating at the time. If we had that crystal ball or could look into the future we would be able to remain calm and "go with the flow" while it was happening. That however is highly unlikely, and being human sometimes playing the positive card all the time just isn't in our programming. Playing the victim seems so much easier- (even though sometimes it wastes A LOT more of our energy to do so.) It may seem that it is unfair, we are being picked on or what we might consider bad circumstances or events, may be preventing us from a situation that could be a lot worse, but we don't foresee that at the time, and sometimes the true meaning is never revealed or we don't associate it with that particular "bad" situation.
Do I have an explanation for every bad thing that comes my way, NO. Am I saying that every bad situation turns into something good, probably not. Am I always going to know WHY something happened or how it changed sometime in the future to better? I think not.  I do know however that the saying goes you never get handed more than you can handle. Sometimes it may be pushing to the extreme but that is when you set your mind to overcome and defeat whatever that obstacle is.
My husband and were watching a program about a man who wanted to go to see what it would be like to be an astronaut. He signed up and went to see what it was all about. When he arrived the men at the school were welcoming but doubtful. He would have to go through the same rigorous tests and physical fitness maneuvers that they had... but he had no legs. He had to swim laps, swim completely under water from one end of the pool to the other, carry a 60lb brick in one hand while doggie paddling with the other hand as his only means to get from one end of the pool to the other since he had no legs to help him kick, and dive down and retrieve that same brick from the bottom of the deepest end and come back up again. Did he do it all, you betcha. The disability that many people may perceive a particular person has as a detriment might just be the one thing that makes that person determined to succeed.  A person's ability to complete a task just might be measured by their determination to do so.
When I was an academic counselor I was told countless excuses as to why students couldn't complete as assignment, how that their instructor was so unfair and didn't they realize they are a working adult with responsibilities, how they were in a automobile wreck or their mother passed away the week before- at the same time I had truly successful single students with 3 jobs and 5 kids, ones with disabilities or sitting in hospital rooms going through cancer treatments who always somehow found time to get their work done. Are any of these students considered better than the other, of course not. It wasn't until I tried to go back to school 3 times to start my Master's program that I realized it isn't "can" I do it, it is how much do I "want" to do it. From this I concluded that having a Master's degree wasn't as important to me to give up or sacrifice what I would to get it. It all relies on our determination and how much they we willing to risk or let go to reach and achieve a particular goal. Some people look to accuses because they are comfortable in their current situation, they don't want something as much as the next person. This can vary from situation to situation or goal to goal. What is important to one person may not be as important to the next and vice versa. There is no harm in that. Every person is different. However we need to stop using our excuses to make other's feel sorry for our situation which we often create to make us feel better about why we "aren't" doing something. Sometimes you either want it or you don't and there is nothing wrong with that as long as you are willing to enjoy what you do have and change your attitude towards it.