Day 10 of 365

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success ~ Henry Ford
I think this quote holds true for business and that was how it was sent to me regarding teamwork this morning, but I would look at the quote more as a reflection of marriage, marriage like teamwork is not often as easy as some people make it seem, and believe me you all know or have heard of the couple who just seems to be happy all the time and never ever agrues.
But in most cases.... that isn't the case- 24/7.
You may not always have the same agenda, and even if you do you may have two completely different ideas on how to get to the goal, even if it is the same. You have to be willing to work together and have a common goal to be a success.
It is a big challenge to learn to understand someone who is so different then you. Like I said in previous posts, we are all unique individuals and we should be allowed to have our own thoughts and ideas and not feel we have to conform to the ideas of others if we don't feel or believe the same way they do.
It won't always be easy, you may not always agree, you may not always want to compromise, but somehow the love and respect you have for one another will pull you through during the toughest times as long as you are willing to be patient, to love unconditionally and to allow that person to love you.
I have found that communication is key and that you need not be afraid to share your fears with that person, you should be willing to let your guard done, to not bestow judgement and to not feel the need to be defensive in all that you are doing or afraid to express how you truly feel, and that other person should be allowed to do that to you.
I say Thank God that we are different. How boring would it be if as a married couple we always agreed and always felt the same way as the other person. I definitely celebrate indviduality 100%.
Take it from Author Dr. Kevin Leman- in 7 Things He'll Never Tell You- who said it best that you did not marry a clean slate, and neither did your spouse, we were all shaped and formed by our mothers and fathers, our relatives, school and friends. From the very beginning of time, God created men to be men and women to be women... and so we see life from completely different angles. Being that we are completely different no wonder we don't think or act like one another.
In general to a man, life is about winning, to a woman, it's about the journey along the way.
Thank you Dr. Leman for your words of wisdom, for a glimpse into a man's thoughts so we may understand what we are dealing with better and know what and how to say things.
I have read this book a few years ago, do I need to read it again, you bettcha. Am I willing to give a little to get better results, I sure am. I don't want to live my life in constant chaos, I chose to look for the harmony.

As some anoymous source puts it "the goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together."